The broad category of humans called mothers, like all the other broad categories of humans, are not intractably indivisible and uniform. Nope, the perfect motherhood monolith is just a false notion. Every single person who bears the label “Mother” stands uniquely alone in their personhood. The way each mom fills out their mother-space is theirs alone.
My mom and I live nearly 3,000 coast-to-coast miles apart, or roughly the same distance as it is from my home to Mexico City or Montreal, Quebec. It’s been nearly 16 months since I’ve seen her.
We’ve missed some big things this year– we made the most of her 80th birthday celebration with a Zoom party. She’s stayed well, the most important thing. But I miss her.
Here are some of the things that make my mom different than all the other moms in the world:
- My mom has always had that young-for-her-age cuteness.
- My mom has a great sense of aesthetic. It is from her that I learned to group things in odd numbers, what the word monochromatic meant, how to fan a stack of paper napkins with the bottom of a glass, and how to accessorize an outfit.
- My mom throws great parties. She makes custom invitations for every event, even a neighborhood weinie roast. She carries a theme all the way through the party, from that early invitation to some little parting gift– usually something she’s made.
- My mom made sure that my Christmas birthday was never overlooked. Not one single year in all my years has she ever given me a birthday gift wrapped in Christmas paper, and she always held some fun birthday party in the midst of the holiday bustle.
- My mom was a good cook and made sure she introduced my brother and me to lots of different foods at an early age.
- My mom is an intuitive gift-giver. She gives clever, meaningful presents that always surprise and delight.
- My mom likes bananas only if they are in the four-hour window of being pale-to-medium yellow and ever-so-slightly slightly green at the tip. At the ice-cream shop she asks to see the bananas before ordering a banana split. Deep yellow or spotted bananas are meant for baking ONLY.
- My mom LOVES all things wedding. My mom has made wedding bouquets for more brides than I can count, and a few wedding dresses and cakes too. Her telephone ringtone is Mendelssohn’s Wedding March.
- My mom hosted a ladies-only royal wedding sleepover for William and Kate and stayed up all night watching the festivities. People from three states attended.
- My mom always cries at the reciting of the Pledge of Allegiance, the playing of the national anthem or Amazing Grace, and at goodbyes.
- My mom allowed me full access to her kitchen as a tiny little kid. It wasn’t her kitchen– it was our kitchen. She taught me how to use flame and knife safely and didn’t hover over my experiments thereafter.
- My mom taught me that cleaning up after myself was an important part of cooking and would call me back into the kitchen if I’d slap-dashed through it. I appreciate the sense of discipline she instilled.
- My mom is not afraid to be the only couple on the dancefloor.
- My mom starts almost every day with coffee and a breakfast bar in bed. Her routine makes me smile.
If I were with her this week, I’d make mom these tasty Banana Coconutty Breakfast Cookies. I’d actually make a double-batch, and zippy-bag them up for her freezer so she’d have a month of homemade breakfast cookies after I left.
What makes your mom the unique person she is or was? Please leave a comment to help us all celebrate our mothers this week.
These breakfast cookies are made with hazelnuts, one of our Oregon treasures. They are naturally gluten-free if you chose GF oats. The contain no dairy, and no added sugar– just naturally sweetened with very ripe bananas. Don’t be tempted to use the green-stemmed ones here. The browner the better and you will never know there is no sugar added.
Banana Coconutty Breakfast Cookies
- 3 large very ripe bananas, mashed
- 1 large egg
- ¼ cup olive oil
- 1 tsp. pure vanilla extract
- 1 cup toasted hazelnuts
- 1 ½ cups rolled oats (not quick-cooking)
- ¾ cup hazelnut flour
- 1 tsp. baking power
- ½ tsp. ground cardamom, nutmeg, cinnamon, OR ginger
- ½ tsp. salt
- 1 cup unsweetened coconut chips or flakes
- Preheat the oven to 350°. Line two baking sheets with parchment paper.
- In a mixing bowl, whisk together mashed bananas, egg, olive oil, and vanilla. Set aside.
- Crush the hazelnuts with the wide side of a chef's knife blade, then roughly chop the hazelnuts a few times, leaving them somewhat chunky. Slide them into the wet ingredients.
- In a food processor fitted with its steel blade, pulse the oats five or six times to begin breaking them down. Add the hazelnut flour and pulse another 5 or 6 times to combine. Add the baking powder, spice of your choice, and salt and pulse another few times just to incorporate.
- Add the dry ingredients to the wet ingredients in the bowl, along with the coconut. Stir thoroughly. Leave it sit 5 to 10 minutes.
- Scoop the batter onto the prepared baking sheets. Bake until the tops are light golden brown and the bottoms are lightly browned, switching the pans half-way through. (Teaspoon-sized drops will bake in about 16 minutes; larger drops will take longer.) Allow the cookies to cool on their baking sheets 5 minutes or so, them move them to a cooling rack to complete cooling.
- Store airtight for up to 5 days. These also freeze nicely.